What Is WeConcile

WeConcile helps motivated couples improve trust, intimacy, safety and connection through established relationship science.

A Tool

Create new outcomes in the fabric of your relationship. WeConcile helps you to communicate and work through complicated issues.

A Journey

WeConcile is a journey you take within yourself and with your partner to rebuild  intimate connections with the most important relationship of your life.


WeConcile is a low cost self help system for committed couples to create deeper and more successful relationships with each other.

How Will It Help

WeConcile is a multifaceted program designed to help you and your partner in a number of very intimate and powerful ways.
Read One Couples Story

Love Is A Garden

Love is what allows us to flourish and blossom. Creating a flourishing loving relationship is similar to growing a garden. A garden requires planning, tilling the soil, planting the seeds, watering and weeding, selecting and appreciating the fruit and flowers.  It requires knowledge of the seasons, meaning what to do when. It requires careful tending and nurturing. It takes patience because it takes time. It takes tenderness because new things are fragile, as are our hearts.

Similarly, tending your relationship takes the same attention. As you progress through WeConcile, your relational abilities will be nurtured. You will learn to tend the garden of your relationship and help it blossom and grow it into the uniquely beautiful thing that it wants to be.

Your Hopes Are Possible

So many of us have this idea that getting married is the fulfillment of our dream and that looking at the hard stuff is the ‘nightmare.’  This couldn’t be further from the truth.  Dreams don’t just happen. Dreams are something we have to build – with focus, commitment and patience.

Without effort, a dream is only an illusion.  It isn’t solid; it doesn’t exist as reality in the here and now.  It exits in the future as a possibility and we can reach it if we develop the skills we need to make it our reality. Successful people and couples analytically figure out what’s not working and then make the changes needed to achieve their goals and dreams. WeConcile gives you a “GPS” to help you get there.

Calm Things Down

Look at the conflict as you understand it. Figure out the pattern that has swallowed up your relationship. Discover the root feelings and wounds that cause negative interactions. Explore the negative pattern as a way of coping with the disruption of safe connection.

Change Your Patterns

Learn to understand your root needs, fears and perceptions about relationships. Learn to share in a way that works. Learn to express your needs and desires.

Put It Together

Open up new patterns of relating. Get comfortable, break in the shoe, get real with it. The tools you learn on this journey apply to all of your intimate relationships. You will emerge a different person than the person who started. And your relationship will transform in the process.

Stop Fighting Each Other

Rather than talking about the same old fight over and over, you will be asked to think about the mechanics of that fight, breaking it down, and finding out what is fueling the fight.  We call your conflict dynamic your ‘cycle.’ This knowledge will build as you progress through multiple levels until you have restructured how you relate and greatly reduced your areas of conflict.

Is WeConcile For Us

WeConcile is for couples who want restoration and success

Success iS Based on Many Factors

  • I am willing to be accountable for my actions.
  • I am willing to look at myself.
  • I want to be in and improve my relationship.
  • I am willing to devote time to learning about myself.
  • I am willing to devote time to learning about my partner.
  • I am willing to devote time to learning about my relationship.
  • I am not in danger of being hurt physically by my partner.
  • My partner is not in danger of being hurt physically by me.
  • I am not currently in an affair.
  • My partner is not currently in an affair.
  • I am not actively abusing alcohol or drugs.
  • My partner is not actively abusing alcohol or drugs.
  • I will respect my partner’s privacy and let him or her share with me, at his or her pace, what he or she wants to share with me from his or her WeConcile learning process.

WeConcile is For You!

Did you see yourself as you read these statements?  They depict a person who has the potential to gain a great deal from WeConcile. If the above statements describe you and your partner, then you will get a lot out of this program.

WeConcile is NOT For You!

If you believe you should leave your relationship, then WeConcile is not the right place to put your time and energy. WeConcile is not designed to help you leave a relationship.

How Long Will IT Take?

Each of the four phases of WeConcile contains six levels or subject areas for a total of 24 areas of learning.

In each level, a couple might spend about 1-hour reading, 1- 2 hours doing exercises and 2+ hours discussing the exercises and learning for a total of 4- 6 hours per level. Some couples move faster.

An example goal would be to complete a level a week when time permits and complete a level every two weeks to three weeks during busier periods. You won’t be allowed to go faster than a level a week – you need time to practice what you’ve learned and integrate it. Going slower may be more productive for you. Following this example schedule, a relationship re- construction process (or project) can take 96 -144 hours or more over the course of 6 months to a year.

Partners need this much time to learn, practice and “rewire” their new learning into a very different and more satisfying relationship experience. As anyone who has done Couples Therapy knows, there are no shortcuts. Changing our lives and relationships takes not only a commitment but time to change who we are, who we want to be and what our experiences are.

This investment in your relationship will take each of you 100+ hours of your time.

Couples Therapy vs. WeConcile

Change doesn’t happen in a closed system. Something new has to enter the system for change to occur. This means people struggling in their relationships will need to allow in something new. This could be a number of things. Couples Therapy, WeConcile, a book or workshop or something else.

Whether you choose Couples Therapy or WeConcile, sustaining a love that works is an ongoing process in all relationships.  It will be hard work.

  • Getting to know yourself better – the impact of your history and your triggers
  • Getting to know your partner better and understand their wounds
  • Learning and practicing open and non-defensive communication
  • Changing difficult behavioral cycles
  • Cultivating vulnerability and nurturing

Like Couples Therapy, the purpose of WeConcile is to help you build your intimate relationship into one that is deeply healing, loving and satisfying.

The WeConcile difference is that as a self-help program, it will cost you significantly less. WeConcile is time convenient. You don’t have to drive to an appointment or get childcare. You can learn on your schedule – not someone else’s.

WeConcile’s learning is systemized. You will be guided through step-by-step learning with specific goals for each step.

WeConcile is private. This is an advantage for those who feel uncomfortable with the process of sharing the issues of their most intimate and important relationship with another person. Depending on the therapy rates in your area, you get 2 – 3 months of relationship help for the price of one session with a therapist.

It is not a shortcut. It will most likely be as much work as seeing a couples’ therapist.  It will take time, introspection, vulnerability, courage and communication. 

The advantage of Couples Counseling is that it can be very stabilizing to have a skilled therapist working with you. Self-study is not for everyone. For some, having a Couples counselor will make the challenges of improving your relationship easier.

For other couples, using WeConcile while seeing a Couples therapist will offer the most learning and support.

If you are dealing with extreme volatility, active affairs, untreated addiction or any physical or emotional abuse, we recommend that you find a well-trained couples therapist rather than using WeConcile.

Whether you choose WeConcile, Couples Therapy or both, we hope your relationship becomes the relationship of your dreams.

Early Adopter Benefits

Most couples wait too long to get help
Our Early Adopter Program allows couples to gain access to a revolutionary system designed to rebuild intimacy through a process of personal change for both parties.
  • Early preview access to WeConcile system when we go live
  • Pre-learning and pre-assignments to set a foundation of learning before you begin
  • The opportunity to be a step ahead and give early feedback
  • Updates letting you know of our progress
  • Huge discount - Instead of $60/month for many months, $149 for a lifetime membership

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