Notes for Season 1 Episode 2 – Moving From Relational Drama to a Secure Marriage

You can do this exercise alone or with your partner. If you are doing this exercise with your partner, you should each complete it on your own and then use it to discuss and understand more about yourself and each other.

In this episode, Janice talks about how she initially equated drama with passion and passion with love. But after some hard knocks, she began to revision what a loving relationship really was. She also shares that despite a secure love, there can still be challenges in a relationship and places to grow. She also shares about how her parent’s marriage impacted her, including her mother’s caretaking and her father’s narcissism. Often, we carry aspects of the relationships we saw most closely, into our own relationships.

Think about your parents’ marriage and how the dynamics in their marriage impacted you.

·      What patterns did you carry into your relationship that you learned from your parents’ or caregivers’ relationships.?

·      What was positive about your parents’ relationship?

·      What was negative?

·      Do you identify with any elements of a drama addiction in love?

·      Do you identify with Janice’s sense of feeling secure in her relationship?

·      If not, what would need to change for you to feel more secure?

·      What else did this episode make you aware of?